Kvon's Carrd

Queer Labels

• Pronouns
• Sex
• Gender Identity
• Sexuality/Romanticism
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Just a Note...

These labels are pretty "finalized" for me. Why is "finalized" in quotes? Well, that's because perception of one's identity is fluid (not to be confused with being genderfluid). Maybe there will be a point in my life where I realize a label I currently resonate with isn't an accurate description of myself... and that's okay. I'll always be questioning my gender identity and sexuality. Every moment in my life, I am actively experimenting with pronouns and labels to find what I best identify as, and that's totally valid! (Thank Demi Lovato for imparting this perspective to me, honestly.)Oh, and also, this is just how I perceive my own idenity. These descriptions should NOT be used as blanket statements to describe any person or any experiences that fit each label. Please don't use any statement here as a "rule" against a person to invalidate them. That's literally a form of queerphobia. And finally, I understand that your experiences with your labels are probably different from mine. All experiences are valid! I respect you for your own perception of your gender and I ask that you respect mine. In general, always ask any person what they're comfortable with instead of making assumptions about them.Again, for everyone reading this: I'm not asking for your acceptance. Just your respect.Oh and also, all the flags I identify with will be at the end of this article.

Pronouns

Long story short, it's complicated.I tell people I use they/them pronouns. Examples of usage of they/them pronouns in sentences would be:Subject: "Do you know where Kvon might be? They wanted me to critique some pieces they wrote."
Object: "Oh, Kvon? I love them!"
Possessive Adjective: "Have you heard of Kvon? Their art is awesome!"
Possessive Pronoun: "Don't steal Kvon's art because... you know... that's theirs, not yours."However, I use one more set of pronouns in queer spaces as a bit of an experiment. If you're reading this, congratulations! You may use they/xe pronouns for me.For xe/xem...Subject: "Do you know where Kvon might be? Xe wanted me to critique some pieces xe wrote."
Object: "Oh, Kvon? I love xem!"
Possessive Adjective: "Have you heard of Kvon? Xyr art is awesome!"
Possessive Pronoun: "Don't steal Kvon's art because... you know... that's xyrs, not yours."So, well, if you're here to purposefully misgender me... this is your one and only warning to not attempt that. Don't care? Move your cursor to the x button for the tab for this page. There's the exit. Have a great life!For more information, feel free to check out my Pronouns.page.

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Sex

Although I was assigned female at birth (AFAB), I'm actually intersex. According to the Planned Parenthood website, being intersex is defined as "an umbrella term that describes bodies that fall outside the strict male/female binary."in my case, I have Partial Androgen Insensitivity Syndrome (PAIS). I'm technically male according to my chromosomes (XY), but during my development, my body was only partially responsive to androgens (male sex hormones). Therefore, I was born with less developed male sex characteristics and more developed female sex characteristics.After a lot of surgeries where doctors took out both sets of gonads, I started taking estrogen patches. Which, honestly, I used to be okay with before I consciously realized the changes estrogen was making on my body, thus making me feel dysphoric about taking them. I'd honestly love to just not be on any hormones, but I can dream I guess...I have to take estrogen to suppress the effects of the excess testosterone I have in my body (which I have mixed feelings about), to prevent osteoporosis from happening, and so I avoid the symptoms of menopause. (Given that I have an estrogen-developed body, isn't it weird that I've technically been in menopause since sixth grade? Wild stuff.) Although I do want to look at more gender-affirming therapy in the future, all I'm asking for now is no broken bones. 😅Also! I don't use "intersex" as a gender identity. Read this Kvon-approved article to see how intersex people identify, and read on to see how I specifically identify!

gender Identity

I identify as an individual under the non-binary umbrella. According to the LGBT Foundation, "Non-binary is used to describe people who feel their gender cannot be defined within the margins of gender binary." I would prefer to be referred to with on gender-neutral terms - for example, as a person or an individual. Because, well, that's what I am. I'm Kvon. I'm just another human being on the planet.One of my friends introduced me to the gender censari. According to the LGBTQIA+ wiki, censari is "where one feels most comfortable within the gender neutral spectrum, but still feels a strong attachment to both masculinity and femininity". I've also been told that a lot of my experiences are in-line with being genderfluid and genderqueer, although I'm not quite comfortable with that label yet. I also somewhat resonate with the terms androgyne and agender. In line with this, I feel like the concept that represents my gender the most is being "the gender scientist", where I am in full control over how I experiment with my own gender and gender expression and that my self-experimentation is never complete.For example, I daily throw as many acids and bases as I can possibly conceive into my bottomless Erlenmeyer flask, resulting in the pH of the product never being fixed. That said, the pH would probably waver around neutral most of the time.But let's move on from the philosophical talk. Since I'm intersex and non-binary, does that mean I'm cis or trans? By definition, being non-binary is being trans, and thus I do believe trans-related issues pertain to me as well. But internally, I don't feel like either. I don't try to think about it too much. It's more important to me that I know that I'm myself than whether I'm cis or trans.Finding out I was intersex heavily influenced my perception of my gender. I recently found this quote from Ki Griffin, an intersex/non-binary actor and activist, and I couldn't relate to it more. "After finding out I was intersex at around 14, it only solidified that I was born to lie outside the binaries that western society had set out for me. My biology had never been binary, so why did I have to live up to that impossible standard for myself?"In terms of how my gender affects my presentation, I have a short hairstyle that makes me appear more gender-neutral. I find myself comfortable in some feminine and slighly more masculine wear, but feel most comfortable in androgynous clothing that has light feminine or masculine touches to it. These days, I honestly go for wearing whatever I like without assigning gender to anything. I don't usually wear makeup unless it's for special occasions.

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sexuality/romanticism

After some serious thought and reflection, I've finally become comfortable with my sexuality and romanticism. I identify as aroace or aromantic and asexual. WebMD defines asexuality as "the lack of sexual attraction to others, or a low interest in sexual activity" and aromanticism as "hav(ing) little or no romantic attraction to others".Whenever I've dreamed of "the one", it's almost never been in a sexual manner. I've also never had a single crush in my life, but have a few squishes, or platonic crushes. (In other words, I have people who I really desire to have a closer friendship with, but usually cannot due to social anxiety.) However, I've always wanted to be in a queerplatonic relationship - a relationship that's more or less the same intimacy of a romantic/sexual relationship without all the romance/sex.This being said, I don't think I am completely aroace - rather, I'm probably somewhere on the spectrum just close to aroace. But to be honest, I don't really care to find out nor do I think it's really possible to pin me down to a specific point on the spectrum. That's why when I discovered omniaroacepomo, I felt chills inside because it fit me like a glove. According to the Tumblr user @genderstarbucks, it means "when a person is on the aromantic asexual spectrum but is unsure where specifically, and has no preference for the gender of their partner". I'll link the rest of their Tumblr post here.I'm sex-ambivalent - I have pretty mixed feelings on sex itself. (I've also never had sex and never plan on having it, so there's that... lol) Some days, it's "Sex? Yeah it's pretty cool." and other days it's "Sex? The hell?" (By the way, you can still like sex - you could even love it - and still be asexual or at the very least on the asexual spectrum. The only qualifier for being asexual/a-spec is having no sexual attraction towards others.)And while I love watching a good romantic movie/anime (heck, Bloom Into You has got to be one of my favorite anime of all time, having introduced me to my aroace icon Seiji Maki) or seeing romance in real life, I desire no such romantic relationships of my own - just super close friendships. Honestly, my platonic relationships are what romantic and sexual relationships would be to everyone else.Seriously though, who needs sex and alcohol when you have anime and candy? (Okay the alcohol part is a lie... but also, I don't have it very often. 😂)

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